"상대방의 싫은 점에 대해서는 입을 굳게 다물고 좋은 점은 아낌없이 칭찬해야지."
Saturday, December 27, 2014
라면을 먹다가
"상대방의 싫은 점에 대해서는 입을 굳게 다물고 좋은 점은 아낌없이 칭찬해야지."
Friday, December 26, 2014
While eating ramen
Before I got married, I was once eating rice mixed with water and chewing on pickled radish in my apartment, where I lived with a roommate. Suddenly, the door burst open.
“Why do you chew so loudly? Can’t you eat more quietly?”
I had no idea anyone was home. I was so stunned. I quietly threw my rice away in the trash and went into my room, barely breathing. Peeking through the door crack, I saw a huge foreign man walk out of the apartment. I had no idea she brought men home during the day.
Her boyfriend came from a rich and prestigious family in Korea. Maybe the way she ate bothered him. His calls became less frequent, and eventually, they broke up. Watching her suffer while waiting for him to reach out again, I thought,
“Is that all it takes to fall out of love?”
Can a careless word—spoken without thought—not only leave a deep scar in someone else’s heart, but also come back to haunt the person who said it, leaving them filled with guilt?
I always tell myself,
“If you don’t like something about someone, keep your mouth shut. And if you like something, don’t hold back your compliments.”
I make that resolution every New Year. But this mouth of mine keeps betraying me, blurting out the wrong things. That’s why I’ve grown afraid of meeting people—and spend more and more time alone.