The immigration Invitation

On the edge of my heart you sit sadly and occasionally climb up and make me sad.

You were born from poor family girl and failed the middle school exam. You were dragged to the sewing factory of Dongdaemun by the hand of your mother who did not give you a chance to take the second examination. You supported your family with your dexterity of the seamstress was excellent. In the early seventies, if a man married you and brought you to America he could earn a lot of money because you are good at sewing. You were sent to America to a man who wants to married.

You and I were together in a cousin's childhood. One year Christmas, I went to LA to see you. You held two newborn babies in your arms and sewed at the corner of your room. At the time of meal, you had to serve the elderly parents-in-law. When you came to the airport to pick me up, you were sick because lack of sleep. Even your good husband looked as if he was ashamed of you in your shabby appearance in a home dress with a seam.

Your parents-in-law had a strong territorial imperative that his son brought you to the United States. You were more like a moneymaking machine than a child 's mother. I was going to go back to New York in the insulting words of your parents-in-law who was saying that you took out the money for your poor family in Korea. However when I saw shivering like a sinner, I held back.

Your desperate request to help you with abortion surgery without knowing you’re family-in-law. You only graduated from elementary school and you cannot read English traffic signs properly. I took the steering wheel to run to L.A. Korean Town. Every time i recalled the unbelieving disgrace of your parents-in-law, I hit the accelerator and drove the freeway along the beach as if we were free.

Calling your family in Korea to escape from your marriage would make you even unhappier. 

As any immigrant family goes through, I have rarely seen a family living in harmony by inviting a parent to an immigrant invitation. When invite them, they are very good treating you, but when they come to the residence, they begin to complain that they want you to help them in the way they want to get into the immigration life. Finally, the parent and siblings are torn apart and tainted with each other.

The cousin eventually died of cancer at a young age, suffering from stress and complaints about her family-in-law members and siblings. To live happily and healthily, you should not lightly think about immigration invitation your parents and siblings. To live happily and healthily for a long time, should not think lightly about inviting immigrant parents and siblings from homeland.