Marital fidelity

“I don’t think my husband even knows how to type on a keyboard. He can’t use email. The only thing he knows how to do is open the news websites I bookmarked for him,” I said.

Another woman replied, 

“Well, at least my husband barely knows how to check his email. But honestly, I worry—what would he do if I die first?”

Then I added, “Why are you worrying? Most men live even better after their wives pass away. They meet younger women and feel like newlyweds again!”

It’s true—when a man loses his first wife, he often ends up with a young and pretty new partner, acting like she’s the love of his life. But in America, many older men are very attached to their money. They’re afraid of dating again. That’s probably why you often see elderly men at diners, eating alone with shaky hands.

When my mother passed away, a woman around my older sister’s age suddenly showed up—almost as if she’d been waiting in a dark alley for the moment. She appeared with a bright smile. I welcomed her, thinking, "It’s better for my father to be happy with someone than to be lonely."

My father gave her everything—his time, love, and even helped pay for her children’s education, weddings, and even remarriages. I couldn’t help but support him like someone softly playing a drum next to a drummer—trying to make him feel encouraged. To be fair, my father also did a lot for us. He helped me emotionally and financially so I could live well. But after Mom passed away, we—the daughters—became less important.

That experience taught me something: 

“While I’m alive, I should give my best to my husband and children. After I’m gone, life will continue just fine without me. And the people I leave behind have the right to be happy.”

But—half of the money I saved while alive is mine. Whatever my husband does with his half, even if he spends it on a young woman, that’s his choice. But my half—I want it used where I choose.

Still, let’s be honest. When men fall for younger women, they lose control. And those women often want more and more money. That’s not just today’s world—it’s always been that way. Like people say, after suffering for 5,000 years, now that they’ve tasted money, everyone’s going crazy about it!

So, I made a living trust. If one of us passes away, the other will only receive half the estate—not all of it. But honestly, that’s just a paper decision after death. Meanwhile, here I am, the aging wife, doing all the computer work to set this up. I wonder—Is my husband even truly happy?

Still, I want to believe that our happy memories as a couple will stay with us—and that loyalty will last. Just like my father, who stayed loyal to my mother and never remarried.